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Punch the Algorithm

I was scrolling through social media hoping for something uplifting, humorously ridiculous, and mildly entertaining.

However, what an unsurprising disappointment. No doubt I was entertained – but mostly by negativity. There’s only so much racism, abuse, and murder one can consume before it starts to feel somewhat like becoming an unwilling participant. Can someone fix this algorithm, please?

I’ve been trying to avoid those animal rescue videos. My tender heart isn’t that resilient. They make me want to reconsider my usually civil vocabulary 😋.

And then, there’s Punch.
The little monkey who finally found love.

I read that the monkey who befriended Punch is Go-chan – who had endured its own rejection and loneliness. Now they’re inseparable.

Somehow that felt different.

It made me think about us – the human race. How many of us see ourselves in Punch? How many of us have known rejection? Loneliness? That quiet ache of not belonging?

I saw this part where Punch tried to approach two other monkeys during the rain but backed away and hid itself. Then another monkey – unsure if it was Go-chan – went to take Punch from its hiding place.

That hesitation looked painfully familiar.

We can be Punch.
But we can also become Go-chan.

Pain has a way of shaping us – it can harden us, or it can soften us. We all long to be loved and to belong. It is primal.

Watching Punch find belonging melted my heart even further – if that’s even possible. It reminded me that empathy isn’t rare and strengthened my belief in goodness and possibilities.

If animals can show empathy, understanding, and choose companionship after pain, maybe we’re not as far from goodness as we think – if we give not only others, but ourselves, a chance.

And here they are… @photo credit – the internet

64 responses to “Punch the Algorithm”

  1. The negativity sells more, and the algorithm is designed to keep us tuned in for as long as possible. It really does need fixing.

    Regarding school, things are much better since our last conversation, thank you once again, Iba.

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    1. Yes, negativity and sensationalism sells. What a world we live in.

      I’m happy to hear school is going well Nathan. Just a few months more then. Reach for the stars 🌟.

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  2. That’s the reason I dislike social media– the algorithm. And I’m being confused about who’s punch and who’s Go-Chan in the photo.

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    1. Punch is the little one. It was abandoned by its mother from birth and the zookeepers raised it. Then as it grew it had to be left in the enclosure with the others. That stuffed toy was given to it to replicate the mother. At the enclosure it was rejected and bullied and the toy was his comfort and safety. Go-chan was the monkey who reached out. You should watch this story Hazel. It’s painfully uplifting and heartwarming.

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      1. And you’ll make me cry🤭🤩

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  3. Social media rarely lets anyone escape cleanly. The scroll keeps pulling, whether it is darkness or a tiny monkey restoring faith. We say we will just look for a minute, and lo and behold… we are still there.
    Strange how this is the only habit with no proper de addiction centre, yet almost everyone is enrolled. 😭
    Phio

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    1. Isn’t that truth. I know why Isn’t anyone coming up with a remedy. We have enough un-needed chemicals bleeding our poor brain. I’m not sure I have enough in me to counter the social media effects 😢

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  4. life is messy
    like my sound
    new tower
    still shitty
    why?

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    1. Sometimes I feel it’ll never get better. Still the fan problem?

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      1. no new tower something either with the headphones or the incripted audio non sense. change is usually for the worse. why i have no smart phones and will not scan any damn things.

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      2. Why would the tower affect the sound? Maybe you should check the headphones or the audio. What are you using, if not a smartphone? I applaud you for not falling for all these gadgets

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      3. there are speakers in the monitor too.

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      4. Hardware problem?

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      5. the monitor is affecting the sound both towers had the same distortion.

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      6. I don’t understand technology.. maybe you should change providers? 🤔

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      7. it s something in the monitor . ill have to ask gemini

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      8. Gemini the person? Lol… you think she knows.

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      9. she s ai on google chrome .

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      10. Ahh that one. I’ve not used Gemini, its supposed to br better than chatgpt?

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      11. i have no idea . the wart is not helping too much/

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      12. the lapse. the collapse of my angry mottled dry skin. oh roy oh boy. oh ray say hey where are you two huusband dudes!>????

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      13. Ooh in the cold it gets bad, try olive oil, not sure if it works, I’m just saying 😁. What two husband dudes 😱

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      14. mr iba is aka roy and ray . being a dymanic man . my freind shari has a cold too

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      15. sound cards and drivers. real tek aint logic tech

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      16. Guess that’s true.

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      17. not sure good thing the monitor has speakers too. everythings encripted windows 11 bullshit

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      18. Technology. Get an Indian tech person to check it out 🤣

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      19. well the drivers need to be updated dell sent a thing not sure if it took.

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      20. drivers and such updated per dell

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  5. Punch! OMG, he is so adorable. I have also gotten weepy watching that poor little guy get rejected again and again. Best to stay off social media for any kind of information. Stick to reliable news sources that you can pick and choose what to read.

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    1. It was heartbreaking and niw they’ve found each other. I’ve even stayed away from the news because its only doom and gloom. When the algorithm behaves I find funny content. Guess I’ll have to wait for awhile 😁

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  6. we love Punch! so glad to see its coming to a positive road for the little baby ❤ Mike

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    1. An emotional roller coaster. I’m thrilled for both of them.

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  7. Honestly, I first learned about punch from a friend who sent me a reel. I couldn’t figure out what it was at first, and he had to explain it later. (I don’t have accounts on any social media apps, by the way.)

    Now, this is an article I came across during last semester—it’s a great one.

    THE BUSINESS OF ATTENTION
    The user interface of digital products is a psychological maze. It does not merely serve function; it shapes emotion, perception, and choice. Every feature is tested not for beauty alone but for behavioural response. Companies measure where the eye rests, how long a thumb pauses, and what type of notification compels an immediate return. The result is not technology that serves the user but technology that studies the user until it owns attention itself.
    The foundation of this manipulation rests on a principle discovered long before the digital age. Behavioural psychologist B. F. Skinner found that when rewards are unpredictable, the brain becomes addicted to seeking them. He called this the theory of variable reinforcement. When a pigeon pecked a button and received food only sometimes, it pecked more frequently than if it received food every time. The unpredictability created obsession.
    Modern social media platforms reproduce this experiment with human beings. Instagram’s refresh button works like Skinner’s lever. A person scrolls because each time they might find a like, a message, or a tag that lifts their mood for a second. The brain associates this momentary pleasure with the act of checking. The next time boredom or sadness strikes, the mind turns again to the same platform. This is not entertainment; it is behavioural conditioning.
    The visual design deepens this psychological control. The red notification badge is not an accident. Neurological research shows that red activates the brain’s threat and alert systems. It signals urgency, drawing the eye faster than any other colour. In nature, red is the colour of danger, fire, and blood. In digital spaces, it has become the colour of desire.
    The effect of this is not small or symbolic. When the red badge appears on a student’s phone, it triggers the release of cortisol, the stress hormone. The brain reads it as a signal that something important is waiting. This sets off a loop of anticipation and relief – anticipation before opening the notification, and relief immediately after. Over time, this cycle reshapes emotional reflexes. The body learns to associate stress with attention, and relief with the screen.
    In classrooms, this manifests as an invisible but constant distraction. A student sitting through a lecture feels a faint vibration or glimpses a red dot on the corner of a screen. Concentration fractures. Even if they resist checking it, part of their mind drifts toward the possibility of a message, a comment, or a tag. The focus that could have been used for deep learning is redirected toward imagined social approval. Teachers notice this as restlessness, inattentiveness, and emotional fatigue. Students describe it as mental fog or boredom, not realising that their brain is cycling through microdoses of anxiety and reward.
    Outside classrooms, the consequences extend into self-worth. Notifications become measures of validation. The absence of them feels like rejection. A student who posts a photograph or story begins to check repeatedly for likes within minutes. The red icons no longer signal information; they become symbols of visibility. Psychologists at the University of Chicago found that the average young adult checks their phone over eighty times a day, not out of need, but out of conditioned fear of missing out. Each glance is a small act of reassurance: Do I still matter in this digital crowd?
    This behaviour erodes emotional resilience. Students begin to experience longer periods of low attention and reduced tolerance for silence. They reach for the phone in moments of pause or uncertainty because the mind has learned that peace equals absence, and absence equals insignificance. Universities report increasing cases of anxiety disorders linked not to academic failure but to digital overstimulation. In counselling sessions across USA, students often confess that they cannot resist checking messages even during study hours or prayers. They describe it as a pull stronger than will.
    The red badge, then, is not a mere feature of design. It is a trigger that keeps the nervous system in a low state of alert. It trains the young brain to live in reaction rather than reflection. Over years, this habit rewires attention, weakens patience, and replaces inner calm with external noise. The hand moves toward the phone even when the person has no real need to use it.
    Infinite scroll, another common design feature, eliminates the natural pause that once allowed reflection. When content ends, the mind has a moment to decide whether to continue. Infinite scroll removes this decision point. It gives a false sense that the next thing might be more interesting. Aza Raskin, who invented this feature, later admitted that it traps millions in loops of mindless consumption. Infinite scroll was meant to make life smoother. But what it really smooths away are the pauses. Those small natural breaks that once gave our minds a chance to rest. When content never ends, the brain stops deciding when to stop. Studies now show exactly how. One investigation into social media behavior found that users trapped in this loop continue scrolling far longer than intended, even when they consciously want to stop (Rzepka & Berger, 2023). The design removes friction and in doing so, removes control.
    For people between eighteen and twenty-five, this has quietly reshaped daily life. A student scrolls between classes, a young professional between tasks, each time telling themselves it’s just for a minute. Research from the Journal of Public Health Policy (2023) shows that this kind of “mindless scrolling” activates the same reward systems as gambling, keeping users hooked through variable rewards; the unpredictable thrill of what might come next. Over time, that design trains the brain to seek constant stimulation, leaving silence and stillness feeling unbearable. The American Psychological Association warns that features like infinite scroll and autoplay are “particularly risky” for adolescents and young adults, whose attention and impulse-control networks are still developing (UNC Psychology Group, 2023).
    Neuroscientific evidence supports this. A 2024 Frontiers in Psychology study found that excessive exposure to short-form, continuously loading content reduces “executive control” – the ability to regulate attention and resist distraction. Another study on “doomscrolling,” published in Computers in Human Behavior, found that prolonged scrolling through negative or mixed content strongly correlates with anxiety, depression, and reduced life satisfaction (Meena et al., 2022). The impact isn’t just emotional. It’s cognitive. Experiments comparing endless feeds with “friction-based” designs show that users of infinite scroll remember significantly less of what they’ve seen (Huang et al., 2024). The mind registers movement but not meaning.
    So, when a 22-year-old opens Instagram and looks up thirty minutes later, unable to recall what they’ve watched, it isn’t laziness or unintelligence. It’s design. Infinite scroll hijacks the mental rhythm that once allowed reflection. It turns pauses into pathways of consumption. Somewhere between those swipes, attention, which is the fragile currency of modern life, erodes.
    Algorithms amplify this dependence. They learn from every touch, delay, and replay. YouTube observes which videos hold attention longer and then recommends another that triggers stronger emotion. The system does not measure what is educational or truthful; it measures what keeps eyes fixed on the screen. Tristan Harris, who once worked at Google, revealed that the goal is not to make users happier but to keep them engaged. When outrage and fear keep people watching longer, the algorithm learns to show more of it. A student who begins with a harmless video about diet or productivity may end the night in a spiral of content about body shame or hustle culture, believing that it was all their own curiosity.
    Even apps that claim to help with productivity or health use similar mechanics. They reward streaks, celebrate small wins, and send reminders that exploit the same dopamine circuits as social media. Duolingo congratulates users with flashing animations for maintaining a daily streak. Fitness apps show incomplete circles that demand closure. The psychological effect is not motivation but guilt. A missed streak feels like failure. For students already under academic pressure, these small cues reinforce anxiety and the illusion that worth is measured by constant engagement.
    Behind all of this lies a larger illusion, the illusion of choice. The interface gives the impression of control. A person believes they select what to watch, read, or like. In truth, the environment of choice has already been engineered. The algorithm curates the range of options, the colours signal emotional response, and the design removes the pauses needed for critical thought. The user acts within a predesigned psychological maze.
    For individuals between eighteen and twenty-five, this manipulation strikes at a vulnerable moment in development. The brain’s prefrontal cortex, which governs impulse control and decision-making, is still maturing. This means that digital interfaces are not just addictive. They are developmental forces. They teach attention to fragment, empathy to thin, and satisfaction to depend on artificial reward. The result is a generation that checks the phone before checking its own thoughts.
    What appears as convenience is in truth the most refined form of control ever created. The modern user is not forced to obey. They are persuaded to enjoy their obedience.

    What’s really in it for the conglomerates?
    The story of the diamond is one of the earliest and most successful manipulations of human desire. Before the twentieth century, diamonds held little emotional or cultural value. They were not or are not rare or sacred. Diamond is one of the most abundantly found natural resource. Such common stones do not hold value and cannot be sold at higher margins. In 1938, when sales began to fall, the De Beers company launched a campaign that would alter social imagination. Through advertisements, movies, and magazine placements, they linked love with ownership, and marriage with a stone. The phrase A Diamond Is Forever entered public consciousness not as a slogan but as a moral truth. It took decades for this association to settle so deeply that a proposal without a diamond came to feel incomplete. Yet the diamond itself remains almost useless as its market price far exceeds its practical worth. The same stone that costs thousands in a jewellery store could be replaced for a fraction of the value if priced by its actual utility.
    The diamond’s ceremony of desire came at a huge markup on truth. The actual cost of mining, cutting, transporting, and polishing a diamond rarely justifies the price a consumer pays. In retail markets, diamond markups frequently run from 100 % to 300 % above wholesale, even more in luxury branding. In fact, diamonds are so easily available and a easy business that a war-state like Israel played a key role in turning this commodity into a national export engine. From the 1930s onward, Jewish immigrants brought expertise in cutting and polishing, and the state leveraged that skill to build a diamond-cutting cluster. Over decades, diamonds became one of Israel’s major exports, generating undeserved billions in revenue and giving the young country economic leverage far beyond its natural resources.
    In the digital age, this process of cultural conditioning no longer takes decades. It takes months or even days. The smartphone achieved in ten years what the diamond industry achieved in half a century. It turned an object of convenience into a symbol of identity. Every new model now carries the promise of belonging, relevance, and power. The cost of materials in a high-end phone is a small fraction of its selling price, yet consumers line up overnight to buy it. Infact, smartphone companies ensure that cheaper models or innovative designs (like self-replaceable or repairable parts) do not stand a chance in the market. The marketing has shifted from showing what the product can do to suggesting what kind of person owns it. Like the diamond, it no longer serves only a purpose. It defines worth. But unlike the diamond, it spreads through culture at the speed of a notification.
    Also, consider in-game virtual items in popular multiplayer video games. A digital skin, avatar outfit, or cosmetic effect may cost $20, $50, even $100 in microtransactions, while its creation and storage cost near zero. The markup is infinite. These items become status signals, much as diamonds once did. Players buy them not for utility, but to make visible a self they wish to be seen as. The process from novelty to cultural necessity happens in months, not decades. The result echoes the diamond market: a symbolic object sold far above its material value, traded as cultural capital, and woven into identity – all done in the service of keeping individuals hooked, addicted and obedient as the conglomerates go on to dictate your daily life and your private or public choices, and earn billions off of you. It begs the question what is the real product/ commodity here. Is it you?

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    1. You are one of the rare ones to not have bowed down to social media. Much resoect. I don’t use social media much except to browse around. Still stuck with Fb and on insta 😁.

      This is a good read and plenty to think about. It is not surprising that behavior is exploited. Everything becomes a commodity and we’re allowing ourselves to become one, that is a sad reality. I think I must write more when emotions take over instead of using social media as a crutch.
      Thankyiu for sharing this.

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      1. Thank you. Whenever you feel like you’ve been watching for too long, put it aside or set a timer on the app so you don’t exceed a specific time limit.

        Yes, sadly, that’s true.
        You can try writing , it really helps. You can keep a separate record of your thoughts just for yourself.
        You’re most welcome.

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      2. Better to cut off social media but there are uplifting stories. I have to be mindful how I use it.
        Oh yes, there are plenty of thoughts laying aside. Maybe one day they’ll be destroyed, when they’ve served their purpose 😁

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      3. Yes, they’re great platforms when used right , like finding like-minded individuals for studies.

        Reckon on that! 😁

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  8. This is the bitter truth today…what you hate the most … algorithm gives you more…

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    1. I agree. I wonder if there’s a way to circumvent that.

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      1. Select only what you want ….ignore what they offer you(unnecessry)

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      2. Yeah but the algorithm pushes content and this happens even while scrolling, how it detects your hand/eye even for a second. Are we supposed to scrolling with eyes shut?

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  9. When I saw the video on Rojie’s blog, I felt like imploding with empathy. That sweet monkey baby and kind-hearted Go-chan? 💔💔💔💔💔

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    1. The story could make anyone cry.

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      1. I bawled for about 5 minutes after. 🥹🥹🥹🥹🥹

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      2. I’m trying to see updates on it. We need to see more of them together.

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  10. This deserves 👏 a reblog..and ❤️ 👏 it GOT one!

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    1. It’s my leading 😎 story. #Blessings

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      1. Thank you for writing ✍️ about such a moving story

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      2. Such a heartwarming story that we all need to be reminded of.

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  11. Go Punch! You can do it!! There are strong days then something like a toothache can set one back…ehem, sometimes it’s up and down hey?

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    1. Yes Nico, ups and downs. Hopefully there’ll be more ups.

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  12. I’ve seen that story. Every time I see that soft toy I smile.

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    1. Makes me want the toy too 🤣. A beautiful story of losing and finding.

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  13. punch is so cute… i’m so glad that he has his own troop

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    1. Atleast some good happened in all the madness that’s going on.

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  15. Iba, I have to admit I’m not very familiar with the full story of Punch and Go-chan that you wrote about today. But the way you told it made me feel like I was right there watching it unfold.
    What struck me most wasn’t the details of the story, but what you drew out of it. That image of Punch hesitating in the rain… trying to approach and then retreating to hide that’s such a painfully human moment. You described it in a way that made it less about monkeys and more about all of us.
    Your reflection that we can be Punch, but we can also become Go-chan really stayed with me. That line carries weight. It’s such a gentle but powerful reminder that pain doesn’t just define us it gives us a choice. To withdraw, or to reach out. To harden, or to soften.
    And I completely relate to what you said about the algorithm. It’s strange how we go looking for lighthearted distraction and instead get served the heaviest parts of humanity. It can feel overwhelming. Maybe that’s why stories like this matter so much they interrupt the noise. They remind us that empathy and belonging still exist, even in unexpected places.
    You have a beautiful way of finding meaning in small moments even in a monkey named Punch. And somehow, you make it feel deeply human. 🤍

    By the way you should explore this I was listening to today

    Tim Keller once described the human heart as “bipolar” when he spoke about sin …
    swinging between pride and shame,
    confidence and despair,
    obedience and rebellion.
    We don’t naturally rest in steady trust.
    We fluctuate.

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